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from BAD MOMENT to GOOD DAY

Kids melt-down while shopping. You yell at the kids. Teenagers have temper tantrums. Everyone has bad moments. On days when the kids are home all day, some mornings are rough. The hardest part is you still have the rest of the day ahead. If nothing changes, a bad morning becomes a long bad day. One day like that, I tried something new. “We’ve had a bad morning, but we can still have a good day.” Soon after one of the kids prayed this prayer often. “Jesus, we didn’t have a… Read more from BAD MOMENT to GOOD DAY

from BETTER to INTENTIONAL

When the boys were little, anxiety consumed me. My anxiety controlled us all.  A low-dose prescription and counselling helped, but they were simply tools that made space for me to do good work in my daily life.  I wanted it to be better, so I had to be intentional. I needed more space to learn how to respond and not react to life. My goal was to love well, not sin against those I loved out of my hurt. In my daily life, I eliminated anything that hindered my ability… Read more from BETTER to INTENTIONAL

from QUIT to START AGAIN

I had coffee with a neighbor late last year. He’s a cartoonist and author. He’s a Pulitzer Prize winner. I told him how too often I quit before I really get started with my work. “We all do that,” he immediately replied. “Yeah,” I thought to myself. Sometimes we just need to be reminded. We quit, but we can start again. It’s the first of the year. You’ve got goals, dreams. Maybe not “resolutions,” but hopes. I say often to myself and the kids, “His mercies are new everyday.” But… Read more from QUIT to START AGAIN

I was supposed to…

Life has a way of re-writing our script. Kids get sick with no warning. Meetings are cancelled. Event schedules change, and we find ourselves saying, “I was supposed to…” My life for the past 20+ years as been filled with “I was supposed to…” I was supposed to be a geophysicist. I discontinued the program and began my journey into vocational ministry. I was supposed to graduate from seminary a single-woman and work on staff at a large church. I got married and never left town. I was supposed to… Read more I was supposed to…

Guns and School Shootings, a Hard Conversation.

I married a gentle, quiet man, who grew up hunting and fishing. We have five sons. At eight-years-old, our boys get to go hunting with him. They learn how to prepare for hunting by studying deer behavior and patterns in the woods and they get to watch gun preparation and care. They also get to shoot at a local gun range. When the time comes they sit with my husband while he hunts. By age nine, if they have earned the privilege through trust and developed skill, they get to… Read more Guns and School Shootings, a Hard Conversation.

“IT’S NOT ABOUT GETTING IT RIGHT”

This is an excerpt from my book, A Life Shared: Meaningful Conversations with Our Kids. I may share these for a while. Why? Right now, I “don’t get it right.” ALOT. Grief because I miss my dad, walking with friends through their heartaches, childhood woes that tempt me to parent out of hurt rather than love, and weariness with “getting it wrong” tempt me to condemn myself. Ever been there? I need this reminder.   It’s not about getting it right. Who do you share your life with? Friends who constantly… Read more “IT’S NOT ABOUT GETTING IT RIGHT”

“Different Families, Different Rules.”

Years ago, I heard a mom say, “Time to empty out.” Her son went to the bathroom without event. With those four-words, ended the whole “Go to the bathroom. But I don’t have to” battle. I explained one time, “Your bladder can hold A LOT of pee, it’s time to empty out.” Soon the older kids, we’re teaching the younger ones. “Different families, different rules,” are four-words that have changed our family life. With five kids, I say “no” a lot. Our kindergartener will still fall-out on the floor in… Read more “Different Families, Different Rules.”

LET’s TALK about “THE TALK.”

I know. It’s like going to the dentist. We know we need to, but most of don’t want to. In 2012, I wrote “How to Teach Your Kids About Sexuality: A Much Needed Conversation” to encourage families to make the talk a conversation in their home. When our nation officially shifted the definition of marriage the summer of 2015, I wrote “The Longing for Sexual Teaching in the Church.” April 2016, “THE TALK: Embrace the Sacred Gift” launched. In this 3 ½ hour workshop, God is doing something. WHAT WE… Read more LET’s TALK about “THE TALK.”